58. Keeping the Spark Alive in a Relationship

On this week’s episode, Chatrice and Luis talk how to keep the spark going in a relationship. Before they discuss the main topic, our hosts catch up. Since last time Luis celebrated their birthday with a special dinner at TGI Friday’s; meanwhile, Chatrice is on a hair journey and has a white Karen moment at Jersey Mike’s. For the main topic, our hosts discuss ’10 Tried and True Ways to Keep a Relationship Fresh”. They review the pieces of advice discussing how to keep a relationship fresh, a tip for travelling with someone who is an anxious person, and not accidentally losing your self in a relationship.

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Time Stamps:

0:19 - Hello and Welcome back

0:47 - What have hosts been up to

0:55 - How did Luis celebrate their birthday

4:50 - GRWM, Chatrice discovers it means ‘Get Ready With Me’

17:16 - Question for the Season: What holiday are we celebrating this season? Single Awareness Day, Galentine’s Day, Valentine’s Day

18:50 - Courting Cutie Shoutout: Luis

20:42 - Shout Out for the Culture: Black History, Lunar New Year; movies with Black and Asian leads: Rush Hour, Romeo Must Die, and Whitney’s ‘Cinderella’; Rihanna is expecting!; Naomi Osaka launches Kinló; Anniversary of Trayvon Martin’s murder; Happy Birthday Trayvon Martin

28:29 - Main Topic: Dating in a relationship; keeping the spark alive

30:01 - Article: “10 Tried and True Ways to Keep a Relationship Fresh’ by Allison Michelle Dienstman

30:39 - What is the current routine with our partners?

36:23 - How often are you and your bae in the same room and on your devices?

39:41 - What do you do to keep it fresh?

43:11 - Discussing article and its advice

43:28 - Advice #1: Fit A Date Night in the Routine

46:12 - If you are late to work by 15 minutes and you get to have breakfast with your partner, yes!

46:26 - Advice #2: Turn Off Your Phone

47:37 - What is your bed time routine when you are both in bed together before falling asleep?

49:40 - Advice #3: Book A Vacation Together

51:06 - A tip for people who travel with someone who has anxiety  

54:16 - Advice #4: Set Aside Time for Your Self 

54:56 - Cardi B lyric reference 

56:59 - Not accidentally losing self in relationship

57:13 - White women advice: “being independently together”; being very much independent of one another 

58:55 - Advice #5: Try Something New Together

1:02:01 - Advice #6: Say Thank You 

1:03:05 - Advice #7: Focus on the Good

1:04:20 - No toxic positivity in a relationship

1:08:27 - Advice #8: Go To Bed Together

1:16:24 - End of Episode

Article:

- https://www.goodnet.org/articles/10-ways-to-keep-relationship-fresh