34. Let's Be Friends

cw: PTSD mention

On this week’s episode, Chatrice and Luis discuss the ultimate relationship…friendship! Grab your friends and listen to this episode, Courting Cuties. For their weekly check in Chatrice awaits her contractor and Luis has trouble remembering the weekends (in general). In a Courting in Color first, our hosts quote an old white man. Welcome to the Court, Aristotle! 

Time Stamps:

 0:20 - Welcome

0:34 - Hosts’ Weekly Check-In

0:54 - CW: PTSD  

8:02 - What is one adult thing our hosts have done this week?

8:18 - Luis asks, why do we spend so much time in the kitchen?

11:29 - Daunte Wright’s murder

13:13 - Army Lt. Caron Nazario being pepper-sprayed

16:16 - Prison Culture’s questions to ask when outraged about injustice - Tweet: https://twitter.com/CriticalRace/status/1382125975207616513?s=20

 17:04 Shout Out for the Culture - Fabulous Lives of Bollywood Wives 

18:10 - Colorism in Fabulous Lives of Bollywood

21:13 - Topic of the Week: Friendship

21:18 - Article: What If Friendship, Not Marriage, Was at the Center of Life?

22:22 - Aristotle’s musings on Friendship

23:06 - Accidental Friendship - Utility

23:24 - Accidnetal Friendship - Pleasure

23:53 - Intentional Friendship - Perfect - mutual appreciation of the virtues the other person holds

24:39 - Perfect friendship further explained

25:26 - Hosts explain their thoughts on friendship concepts of Aristotle 

31:33 - You can’t call someone your friend until you have spent 80 hours

32:02 - Value of salt in salt Christian scripture 

34:24 - Value of salt in Ancient Greece (source: GreekBoston.com)

37:42 - What is the 2021 version of salt? What is some thing you share only with a very close/close friend?

38:23 - What if Nicki Minaj was singing about friends and salt in “Bottoms Up”?

39:06 - Giving your cell phone number, is that a close sign of friendship?

39:30 - Close friends on Instagram is the new MySpace top 8

40:33 - We ask the Courting Cuties: what qualities do you look for in a friend or a friendship?

41:23 - Hosts and what they look for in friends

44:06 - Better discernment of friends than relationships/baes

45:08 - Team #NoNewFriends

49:09 - What is the process of making friends?

52:28 - In the work environment, everyone gets a first coffee date.

57:51 - Identity politics in friendship

58:03 - What people expect out of certain people and certain bodies, cultural understandings of black women as mammys and fat friends as the loveable, funny friend

59:15 - The concept of visiting people

1:00:10 - Last question: What has been Chatrice and Luis’ favorite moments in their friendship?

1:09:09 - Wrap Up: listen to Courting in Color’s old episodes, next season in a couple of months!

Article: What if Friendship, Not Marriage, Was at the Center of Life? by Rhaina Cohen - https://www.theatlantic.com/family/archive/2020/10/people-who-prioritize-friendship-over-romance/616779/

Article: Aristotle’s Philosophy of Friendship Still Matters Today by Zat Rana - https://humanparts.medium.com/aristotles-timeless-advice-on-what-real-friendship-is-and-why-it-matters-c0878418343f

Nicomachean Ethics by Aristole translated by W.D. Ross - http://classics.mit.edu/Aristotle/nicomachaen.8.viii.html