54. Birkenstocks and Box Braids

On this week’s episode, Chatrice and Luis are back to talk interracial dating. Did you miss them these last 2 weeks, Courting Cuties? Before the main topic, our hosts catch up. Since last time, Luis discovered the true cost of Thanksgiving ham; created a TikTok for their cats; and, went to a high school’s friend wedding; meanwhile, Chatrice is watching holiday baking television shows; went to Asheville with bae; and, busy time with school has concluded. For the main topic, our hosts have a part 1 discussion on interracial dating. They discuss hiding aspects of yourself when interracial dating, how to find the space for your racial and ethnic self within an interracial relationship, and how white people cannot pretend race does not exist when they date people of color.

Time Stamps:

0:19 - Hello and Welcome Back

0:50 - Hosts Check In

16:10 - What holidays are we celebrating this season? (12/12) National Gingerbread House Day; (12/12) National Ding-a-ling Day

21:26 - Courting Cutie Shoutout: Carly’s wedding (a top 3 wedding!); Rachel is engaged (season 4 guest, epsiode 39); Natalie is also engaged; congrats to Carla for being newly boo’d up (new term learned: kittenfishing) 

32:52 - Main Topic: Interracial Dating 

33:22 - New York Times article on Interracial Dating: “Do You Hide Your True Self While Dating?” by Brianna Holt

35:00 - Responding to Remy Barnwell’s story in article 

38:38 - Hiding aspects of self while interracial dating (music, clothing, shoes); putting a lot of thought of how you show up and how you present yourself 

39:25 - Being aware of self in professional settings (at work) vs. personal settings (like dating)

42:20 - Being Black doesn’t mean you fit into one box; you can be Black and it can mean anything

47:21 - “If you are a white person dating a person of color, your world cannot be colorblind” - Luis

50:14 - Being pro-black does not mean you are anti-white

51:55 - How would Luis describe the experience of interracial dating?

53:48 - Finding the space for racial/ethnic self within an interracial dating

1:00:35 - Do you invite your white partner to BIPOC gatherings?

1:02:02 - Chatrice has met bae’s siblings

Article: 

“Do You Hide Your True Self While Dating?” by Brianna Holt - https://www.nytimes.com/2021/11/11/style/interracial-dating.html