44. Convenience Dating

On this week’s episode, Chatrice and Luis welcome Guest Courting Cutie Monet to talk about conviencing. Our hosts and Monet talk about a recent Tale of Tinderoni , defining and naming the rules of convenience dating, and, dating without the need for it to be long-term. Before this conversation, our hosts catch up: since last time Luis is on vacation doing travel to celebrate Chatrice’s birthday and Chatrice has joined the 30+ club (hello Leo season!). 

Time Stamps:

0:19 - Hello and Welcome Back

0:32 - Hosts Check In: up to since last week

7:50 - Me moments of this past week 

10:21 - Shout Out for the Culture: Amber at BBQ joint; Issa Rae got married

15:42 - Guest Introduction: Monet 

19:07 - Monet describes dating scene in her town 

21:36 - Tales of Tinderoni

23:58 - Reactions to Tale 

33:26 - Vibe Check instead of dates?

41:25 - Main Topic: conveniencing, or convenience dating

42:26 - Defining conveniencing 

44:14 - Conviencing and the convenience-r

44:54 - Lovepanky.com’s definition of convenience dating: https://www.lovepanky.com/love-couch/better-love/relationship-of-convenience

45:36 - Rules for conveniencin

47:51 - Rule 1: open communication

48:00 - Rule 2: check in with yourself

49:43 - Luis’ relationship to conveniencing and convenience dating  

51:01 - Another rule for convenience dating: siloed, kept in a vacumn of sorts

51:32 - Convenience dating sounds a lot like casual dating 

53:59 - Why are people afriad of having conversations in dating, especially defining what the relationship is?

55:03 - Best communication in dating can happen in open and poly relationships in BD-M relationships

57:50 - Monet asks, when conveniencing how do you keep yourself safe?

1:03:15 - Wrapping Up

1:03:40 - no stigma in dating someone you don’t see yourself long term with

1:04:20 - When thinking about convenience dating, does doing so hinder you from a long-term goals in dating

1:06:17 - Conveniencing can be positive   

1:07:45 - Convenience dating can help with practice and help with your relationship journey

1:09:52 - “Everyone told us to go get married and find a spuse but no one told us about the journey that we all have to embark upon to get there and what all that entails and how that looks so different for everyone”

1:13:25 - End of episode