46. What's Your Dating Lifestyle?
On this week’s episode, Chatrice and Luis talk dating lifestyle. Courting Cuties, are you more of a homebody or out here in these streets in dating or in your relationship? What is your dating lifestyle? Since last week, Luis purchased new crocs and being busy at work; meanwhile, Chatrice is also busy at work and went axe-throwing! For the main topic, our hosts discuss defining “homebody” and “socialite”; routines in a relationship; and the performance of dating.
Time Stamps:
0:19 - Hello and Welcome Back
1:27 - Hosts check in: what have they been up to since last week?
7:28 - Me moments of the week for the hosts
9:46 - The plight of a good supervisor in a toxic work environment (possible presentation topic!)
14:43 - Shout Out for the Culture: Daneille (friend of the pod) attending a new blind dating initiative in New York; Reservation Dogs on FX as the first television show with an all-Indigenous writing room; Issa Rae’s “Sweet Life: Los Angeles”; Danielle Brooks’ engagement photoshoot; Happy Birthday Angela Bassett
21:50 - Main Topic: Dating Lifestyle; being homebodies vs. lifestyle
22:21 - Chatrice coins the word “Dating Lifestyle”
22:33 - Buddybits.com discuss how dating is a lifestyle
23:43 - Are you a socialite or a homebody?
23:45 - Luis answers the question
26:01 - What comes to mind when you hear the words homebody and socialite? Defining “homebody” and “socialite”
27:56 - Top tier of socialite: being able to go out alone and find people, second tier of socialite: going out, you are popular and the people know you, third tier of socialite: you go out with your crew
30:12 - Homebody alone vs. homebody with people
31:50 - Ranking Luis on a scale of 1-10 of being a socialite
34:09 - Home-alite and social-body: new terms!
35:29 - Wanting to spend time at home because it restores us and protects us
35:57 - Do you look for people with the same social level and social intrigue?
37:28 - Do you think when you are first dating a person, should it be more social in nature and out there?
39:01- booty-doir
39:55 - Chatrice discusses dating two guys: one lives down the street and the other lives down the mountain
40:46 - Luis asks Chatrice which dating lifestyle she is vibing more: the homebody or the one she does more activity?
41:32 - Developing a routine when dating is not bad thing!
42:21 - Luis speaks in the “I”: developing a routine was a corner stone in cementing their relationship
43:07 - Chatrice wonders why saying routine could be a rut
44:10 - Just because you have a routine with a new boo does not mean you are dating automatically
46:17 - Thinking about dating lifestyles especially in early parts of the dating and courting process
47:46 - Chatrice is an activator in dating!
49:42 - Advice for cuties who are approaching a relationship: do they need to let go of their single lifestyle to make space for their dating lifestyle?
51:39 - Have the “me time” with the “we time” in a relationship
52:03 - Luis struggles with “me time” creating space for themselves that restore them or indicative of them
53:11 - Spaces outside of home should be for me not just for socializing or being a socialite
56:13 - It can feel that being in a relationship needs to be outside and performed
56:58 - Social integration in dating can be inside the house as well as outside the house
57:29 - Comfort
59:17 - Rhytmns look different in a relationship vs. when you are out there dating vs. actively dating
1:00:01 - Is this 30? choosing to eat at home as opposed to eating out?
1:02:38 - Actively unlearning or relearning while you are experiencing a good thing because you are not used to
1:03:04 - When you are actively used to experiencing the negative, it can be a lot to experience the positive; so use to anxiety that you do not know what to do when you are not experiencing the anxiety
1:04:13 - Reframing “setting” as “choosing”
1:07:03 - Overall takeaways from the conversation
1:08:33 - Next season idea: how covid has impacted dating lifestyle
1:08:48 - Did we really have a hot girl summer this fall? My fall plans vs. delta variant memes
1:09:48 - It is okay to be a homebody in a relationship
1:12:20 - End of show
Links:
Reservation Dogs in the New York Times by Stuart Miller- https://www.nytimes.com/2021/08/06/arts/television/reservation-dogs.html
Sweet Life: Los Angeles on EW.com by Marcus Jones: https://ew.com/tv/meet-cast-of-sweet-life-los-angeles-issa-rae-produced-unscripted-series/
Danielle Brooks’ Engagement Photo Shoot via The Shade Room: https://theshaderoom.com/danielle-brooks-and-her-fiance-are-serving-elegance-adventure-in-their-engagement-photoshoot/
“Can Dating Be Considered A Lifestyle?” by Jignesh Patel - https://buddybits.com/2018/10/dating-lifestyle/