29. Meet Me At My Bar
On this week’s epsiode, Chatrice and Luis talk about standards in dating and relationships. Luis has had a week of abundance and Chatrice is enjoying the extra hour of sunlight. This week we bring a tale of a tinderoni the court and talk about the ‘IDK guy’. Chatrice and Luis discuss why are people who don’t know what they are looking for on the apps? In a previous season, Chatrice and Luis discuss the lists and now are thinking if they are or are not standards. Courting Cuties, what are your standards versus what are your wishes? Is attractiveness a standard vs. a wish? Is ambition/goal-oriented a standard or a wish? Is being treated well a standard or a wish?
Time Stamps
0:43 - Catch Up
3:23 - Men suck, friends rock, and feet cute
10:08 - What is one adulting thing you did this week?
15:09 - Shout out for the culture: International Women’s Day, Dolly Parton gets the vaccine,
16:51 - Word of the pod: kiche
17:30 - Courting Cutie Shoutout: Jennie Dee
20:22 - Tales of a Tinderonie
21:55 - Importance of being on the same page from the jump
23:26 - Apps can be exhausting
23:42 - New term: IDK guy
27:46 - Main topic: standards
28:48 - Courting Cuties’ responses to is there anything bad about having high standards
37:12 - Thinking of standards as high, middle, and low priorities
37:47 - Your standards is not your wish list
40:17 - Standard for self
44:03 - Examples of standards
46:22 - Attraction exists on multiple levels
48:26 - Is it wrong for an educated woman to want an equally educated man?
48:46 - Equally yoked
50:27 - Dating apps a wild card, comparison to meeting someone in your social circle
50:38 - Swiping right on black does not always work
52:01 - Being in a relationship, does Luis know their standards?
52:27 - Learning of self while single, and a whole another learning of self now being in a relationship
52:57 - Do you need to know your standards before you get into a relationship?
53:30 - What standards do our hosts have for romantic partners (commuicated openly or not)?
54:10 - A standard (in dating/relationship) is something you cannot live without
54:43 - Equal energy and contributions in a relationship; not 50/50, but equal/balanced
55:23 - Chatrice challenging to think that each person is giving 100% as opposed to 50%
59:01 - Having a standard allows you to remove the “what if’s”
1:02:05 - Do you list your standards on your dating profile?
1:05:48 - Not being bored in a relationship
1:06:27 - How do you even decide what your standards are?
1:06:45 - Where do our standards for dating and relationships coming from?
1:07:34 - Do we release our selves from our wishlist and focus more on the standards?
1:08:08 - Wrap Up: