36. Chatrice and Luis, Will Anyone Ever Love Me?

On this week’s episode, Chatrice and Luis talk about the idea of the fear of not being loved. Inspired by a letter sent to ¡Hola Papi! advice column by JP Brammer, our hosts talk about: worthiness of love, asking will anyone ever love me, and your social circle’s impact on your view of the world. Since last time, Luis has been enjoying nature and hiking, while Chatrice has been focused on house rennovation and trying to stay on schedule for it.

Time Stamps:

 0:00 - Intro

0:19 - Hello and Welcome 

0:31 - Host Check In

5:31 - How do we make time for rest and still accomplish our goals?

6:40 - “No one is going to prioritze me but me. Work is always going to be there” - Chatrice 

10:00 - Shout Out for the Culture: Happy Pride!

12:53 - Tales of Tinderoni

14:11 - Tales of Tinderoni Reaction

25:18 - Main Topic Intro: Will anyone ever love me? from the ¡Hola Papi! advice column by JP Brammer!

27:09 - Letter written to the ¡Hola Papi! advice colum: https://holapapi.substack.com/p/will-anyone-ever-love-me from Unlucky Lesbian

29:17 - Do the hosts relate to the letter?

32:00 - Have hosts asked god/universe, will anyone ever love?

34:05 - Environment being conducive to dating and/or being loved

35:18 - The focus of The Nanny and Fran being married by 30 years old

35:51 - “Gay death”: lives of gay people being “over” by the time you are 30

37:10 - Social circle’s impact on your view of the world

40:32 - Do partnered people connect more with other partner people?

41:08 - JP Brammer’s Response to Unlucky Lesbian

42:15 - Successful in other aspects of my life, why can’t we be success in dating and relationship?

43:01 - Smaller negatives within the bigger positives 

46:05 - Asking Courting Cuties, how long have their relationships have been?

46:52 - Is there an “it” as to why we are not in a relationship?

48:12 - Who are you now is perfect to be in a relationship

48:32 - Luis surprised as to work that continues when you are in a relationship

49:09 - Who you are in this moment is perfect, there will always be continual improvement, there is not on perfect moment to wait to be in a relationship

49:52 - People in a relationship saying to a single person, “Oh, you’ll find someone! It will be okay!”

52:03 - Self-fullfilling prophecy

52:18 - “The adage of, it will be okay you will find someone, removes me as a person who wants to walk this path with you” - Luis

55:40 - Hope and reassurance

56:26 - Making lemonade out of lemons

56:52 - You can manifest something but you have to put the work into it  

57:06 - Conclusion: Takeaways

1:03:17 - End of Episode