39. Honey, I Shrunk the Baby Gay!
On this week’s episode, Chatrice and Luis invite Courting Cutie Rachel to discuss Pride Month, relationship fuzzies, and the term ‘baby gay’. Our hosts discuss Philadelphia travel (including their highs/lows), the travel bug that bit Chatrice again, Luis rants on the current state of the service industry. With Rachel, the discussion revolves around male gaze in relationships, first queer relationship, exploring dating outside of cishet men, and demisexuality.
If you would like to see Rachel’s section of this week’s episode, you can watch it on Youtube! Visit https://youtu.be/TPRNawOfQpY. The video has closed captions as well!
Time Stamps:
0:00 - Intro
0:19 - Hello and Welcome
0:39 - Catch Up: Recapping Philadelphia Travel
3:58 - Travel bug biting Chatrice again
8:09 - Pay people a liveable wage; frustration at restaurants/service industry
9:05 - Chatrice visits Ishkabibble’s! It’a real place refernced in “Living Single”
11:13 - One ‘me’ moment for our hosts
13:05 - What is our COVID body, accepting our COVID body as it is
14:04 - Shout Out for the Culture: Sha’Carri Richardson
18:11 - Guest Cutie: Rachel
18:55: Rachel Introduction’s
21:09 - Describing the dating scene of where Rachel lives
23:57 - Guest describes current dating/relationship status
25:58 - Discussion of the term ‘baby gay’
26:39 - Who do you date, who do you find attractive, and who did you date in the past?
28:02 - Luis’ discusses how they define demisexuality for them
29:02 - How do you identify across sexuality spectrum
31:28 - Exploring dating outside of cishet men, talking to all gender idenities on Tinder
32:44 - “Yes, I’m straight but I haven’t necessarily tried anything else so I don’t know” Chatrice recalls Rachel saying something akin to this
33:32 - Urban dictionary definition of ‘baby gay’
34:30 - Does Rachel identify as a baby gay?
36:38 - Cultural immersion of ‘baby gay’
37:06 - “You can be queer and not really be in the culture” was something said during a recent conversation Luis and Chatrice were a part of
39:30 - Love Story recollection
46:36 - Lessons learned in this relationships - lesson learned about the relationships, lessons learned about self
48:11 - Relationship benefit: doubling the wardrobe
53:04 - Rachel’s coming out story
56:08 - Attending pride festivals
57:25 - Queer Bucket List for 2022
58:14 - Queer representation, visibility; would it have been helpful for queer youths to see queer adults?
58:49 - Feeling a responsibility to be queer and visible
1:01:30 - To Luis: Advice to baby gays, those new to their queer identities
1:03:00 - Advice: attend a Pride
1:03:36 - New Merch Ideas?
1:03:46 - Advice: Find queer mentors
1:05:08 - The Old Gays - Youtube Channel: https://www.instagram.com/theoldgays/
1:05:40 - ‘Old Gays’ and ‘Baby Gays’ we are using as an endering terms
1:06:55 - Gay fairytale: not meeting someone on the app
1:07:45 - To Rachel: Advice to someone new to their queer identity: (1) dive head first; (2) if someone isn’t into you, they aren’t; (3) dating is dating, talking to someone, hanging out; (4) don’t feel the need to define yourself, if you don’t want to
1:09:08 - Rachel’s sexual orientation is…bad ass!
1:11:01 - Queer or not, dating woes are universal, don’t pile on the pressure, you are getting that from elsewhere
1:12:59 - End of show